While the word no may be hard for some of us to say because we don’t want to seem rude, un-thoughtful or uncaring, what’s truly hard is to take on more than we can handle and make the rest of our lives chaotic…if continually feeling more obligated to others then to the quality of our life doesn’t make us physically sick, this dynamic can certainly feel like an emotional cancer. … More 10 Resources To Help You Protect Your Self Care By Saying No
What’s in the cup is my sustenance, it’s mine. We as women were never meant to give from our sustenance but boy has the world done a good job at convincing us otherwise. Social conditioning gives us kudos for being self sacrificing and “good” in having a sort of stamina in giving.
When I give from my sustenance with others, it can set me up to feel resentful, used and bitter. The selfless giving turns into a undercurrent of martyrdom that feels heavy and dis-empowering. … More Giving From The Overflow, Not Our Reserves
What is true for me, is that the more time passes that I’m regularly investing in silence and solitude, the more my discrimination grows. The discernment blossoms with which to see when it’s appropriate to show my mamma claws and say “No, that won’t work for me” and when it’s appropriate to be my Jungle Book bear version and back stroke down the river of ease and say “Yeeeeees”. … More How Reclaiming the Word No, Reclaims You