While the word no may be hard for some of us to say because we don’t want to seem rude, un-thoughtful or uncaring, what’s truly hard is to take on more than we can handle and make the rest of our lives chaotic…if continually feeling more obligated to others then to the quality of our life doesn’t make us physically sick, this dynamic can certainly feel like an emotional cancer. … More 10 Resources To Help You Protect Your Self Care By Saying No
I had rage from not having permission to speak my thoughts and heart as a child, rage over my molestation from an uncle, loathing towards being a woman because I saw that much of what I lived through wouldn’t of been a reality had I been born a man. I also became aware of how guilty I felt for just taking up space, actual physical space. I felt wrong just for existing and boy did the people I attract into my life once I left home, reflect that. … More 5 Self Care Gifts That Heal The Mother Wound
I remember feeling so ashamed for the moments I experienced feelings of callousness towards his cries because I was so terribly sleep deprived. I fought the instinct to sleep and eat along with all the ridiculous thoughts that came from that, to tend to him as lovingly as I could. Who raise their children in times of war, famine and natural disasters? … More How Our Mothers Influence Our Self Care
I went to school and obtained a degree they wanted, followed by a job they wanted and there I was at 23 on a beautiful spring day in Lakeview, Chicago, struggling to get out of bed and just take a shower…Little did I know I was walking my fragile self into an environment that was only going to test my resilience even further. A few days into the job it became clear that the owner was a hot head and would rage at his employees when mistakes were made. … More How Self Care Extends Way Beyond Stress Relief
I seesawed many times until I realized that their being upset was their business. If I was starting to care for myself, felt the best I ever had, and they didn’t like it, then that said more about them than me…we had been living comfortably in a small box of norms that we created with many silent assumptions. Remaining in that box had become painful, much more painful, then being on the receiving end of their disappointment. … More Are Your Self Care Efforts Rocking The Boat?
Is the idea of visiting people you love for the holidays dragged down by the idea of having to interact with that one out of bounds person that always manages to get under your skin and derail your good time?
Saying no to certain kinds of interaction is also much easier when you’re clear about the deeper freedom you’re saying yes to. It’s freeing to be able to be ourselves without having to worry about our emotional safety in social situations. This is easier when we make it clear to those around us what we will not tolerate and what we will wholeheartedly contribute to. … More How to Take Control of Your Holiday’s With 3 Social Self Care Lists
Understanding the link between how I was fathered and essentially, how I have fathered myself as an adult has been like walking through a dense fog before arriving to clarity. After suppressing my emotions for so long, looking at them felt like taking out a chest full of confusing and chaotic memories. It took years of living more intentionally and reflecting through countless self created painful situations, to become aware of and take action to change my painful patterns. … More 5 Signs Your Inner Man Needs To Grow Up & What Will Help
What is true for me, is that the more time passes that I’m regularly investing in silence and solitude, the more my discrimination grows. The discernment blossoms with which to see when it’s appropriate to show my mamma claws and say “No, that won’t work for me” and when it’s appropriate to be my Jungle Book bear version and back stroke down the river of ease and say “Yeeeeees”. … More How Reclaiming the Word No, Reclaims You
It became the safest, most sacred space… only there… I dared to say the things that surprised even me. It’s only there that I discovered the deep refreshment of letting my truth air itself out in all its mesmerizing and horrifying facets. … More Play, Fluid Mind and Your Power Routine
It became the safest, most sacred space… only there… I dared to say the things that surprised even me. It’s only there that I discovered the deep refreshment of letting my truth air itself out in all its mesmerizing and horrifying facets. … More How A Habit of Play Keeps Us On Our A-Game