I seesawed many times until I realized that their being upset was their business. If I was starting to care for myself, felt the best I ever had, and they didn’t like it, then that said more about them than me…we had been living comfortably in a small box of norms that we created with many silent assumptions. Remaining in that box had become painful, much more painful, then being on the receiving end of their disappointment. … More Are Your Self Care Efforts Rocking The Boat?
…our WHY’s behind the positive changes we are trying to make in our lives, have to be that much more meaningful for them to have a chance at being resilient in the face of those challenges.
We need to ask ourselves WHY what we want to change is important to us and what is at stake if we don’t make that change.
Dr. Stosny lives with an indentation in his head from one of the many abusive incidents he survived, at the hands of his father. His mother who left his father 13 times before finally leaving once and for all, freed herself from the shackles of, not only the abusive relationship, but from the shackles of indignation, victimization and resentment which were 100% justifiable. … More 3 Examples of The Most Needed Act of Self Care
…I began to conceptually understand the home as a launchpad for how we go out into the world. When it’s comfy, tidy and serves all our needs for refueling, then as we step out of our homes to take on the day, we’re launched into the world all the stronger. When our home drains us with mounting, unprocessed clutter, has us on nutritionally thin ice with instant, boxed and pre-made frozen meals and deep sleep is an anomaly as a result of all this, we are doing ourselves a great disservice. … More Why Home Care Is Self Care, In Tough Times Part 1
That is the litmus test isn’t it? when chaos ensues and the !#% hits the fan where are you? Are you running from it? Are you fighting it?
I’m present because what I’m doing feels so good. Although waves of fear come over me and manifest as a clenched chest, heavy shoulders, tightening stomach, sweaty palms etc., my mind is pulled back from indulging in it time and time again. In being brought to the present moment, my old habits …are derailed
… More How 90 Seconds Changes Everything When in Crisis