Making choices about the aesthetics of placement, colors, candles, flowers, mementos, pictures and coveted foods is a gratifyingly beautiful way to tiptoe towards the still hurting places within myself. In the process of engaging with the beauty of color, taste, scent, sound and touch I prepared my heart for the closer than usual encounter with those losses. For only that limited amount of time, I’ve stepped closer towards wholeness. … More How an Altar Can Profoundly Contribute to Your Well Being
In our fast paced world there is no room for the profound inner stirrings that loss invokes and this is precisely how these ancient rituals squarely meet this need. They give us a place in time to contain those deeply stirred emotions and be with them. It’s perfect and appropriate that rituals like these are held once a year as those months in between are needed to heal from the inner work of coming to grips with loss and the value of life. … More 5 Self Care Rituals To Process Loss
…the fascination with exploring “the variety of ways” was losing it’s shine and I ached to commit to a path and give it my all, as I witnessed these friends do so earnestly. I realized that no matter which way I chose, when I finally did make that commitment to put forth the effort to make it a daily part of my life, I would in time have that relationship that my friends had given me a glimpse of and finally quench that nameless thirst. … More How To Satisfy The Need Self Care Cannot
I refuse to simply curl up and weather the storm. In the face of all the cruelty that is trumpeted and highlighted to us in the news, I want my life to be a roaring river of all that is good and true.
I intend to be a wellspring of these values for those physically around me and those I reach online. To the best of my capacity, may I enable the flourishing of life in all I do. … More How Choosing to Thrive, Over Simply Surviving, Will Change Our World
what would have happened had I not attended that one hour vigil in those 4 days? I think I would have felt like I was walking around with an emotional hole in my being from my neck to my navel. A big, aching, vulnerable hole. I could easily see myself spending the whole of many years trying to fill or numb that aching hole…Sure, I have my morning routine of chanting, yoga, meditation, water etc. but none of it can come even close to giving me the release, embrace, closure and healing that I experienced in those 4 days in Mexico. … More How Community and Tradition Preserve Our Humanity
Isn’t this the missing piece that makes all the difference when navigating a rough patch in our lives?, that precious clarity that cuts through the heart of difficult situations and makes the fog disperse? Acceptance for where we are, in all its sometimes, humiliating messiness, is the precursor of this beloved.. … More How Gratitude Grows Your Stress Resilience
Gratitude expands and widens. To choose to open up to it in the midst of feeling vulnerable and raw is nothing less than brave and a statement of choosing life…The weight and tenderness of raw sadness when fully allowed sinks us into deeper levels of feeling. As if with every navigation through pain and heartbreak a deeper well of feeling is unearthed and equally deep and enjoyable feelings can then be experienced. … More What This Cowboy Teaches Us About The Power of Sadness
What then followed, happened in a matter of minutes at most. In the split second of internal effort to reach for gratitude (because it was effort) the heavy sadness lightened and that familiar stirring of warmth in my chest resurfaced. What followed was what I can only describe as a kind of dam that had been broken through within me by a powerful surge of deep joy, reverence, awe and euphoria. … More How Gratitude Can Fundamentally Shift Your Life
I learned to discriminate between what I call fluff and muscle. Fluff either comforted me, enchanted me, pumped me up or gave me the intellectual high of understanding new ideas.
Muscle was the integration of heart and mind that together, fueled me with power to create tangible, life affirming change. … More How Flow Led To Real Change
When that “Bigness” does come it’s like being filled up by a fuel that is the densest, most concentrated… Like catching a sip of sun nectar whose warmth and concentration steadies my ever changing moods. It fills me, if even for a few seconds, with effulgence … More How Finding Your Bigness Changes Everything