Giving From The Overflow, Not Our Reserves

What’s in the cup is my sustenance, it’s mine. We as women were never meant to give from our sustenance but boy has the world done a good job at convincing us otherwise. Social conditioning gives us kudos for being self sacrificing and “good” in having a sort of stamina in giving.

When I give from my sustenance with others, it can set me up to feel resentful, used and bitter. The selfless giving turns into a undercurrent of martyrdom that feels heavy and dis-empowering. … More Giving From The Overflow, Not Our Reserves

15 Things Self Care Has Helped Me Appreciate About My Body

My body has instinctual wisdom that sizes up much faster and more comprehensively, any situation I’m presented with, in comparison to my brain…It takes some strength to listen to the wisdom my body is telling me. Many times what it needs is not convenient for me and I need to push outside my comfort zone to heed it. There are times my gut informs me about the environments I’m in and the people I’m interacting with, and the truths it tells me can be just plain ugly and unpalatable. … More 15 Things Self Care Has Helped Me Appreciate About My Body

How Our Mothers Influence Our Self Care

I remember feeling so ashamed for the moments I experienced feelings of callousness towards his cries because I was so terribly sleep deprived. I fought the instinct to sleep and eat along with all the ridiculous thoughts that came from that, to tend to him as lovingly as I could. Who raise their children in times of war, famine and natural disasters? … More How Our Mothers Influence Our Self Care

Why This Self Care Idea Will Clear The Constant Mind Chatter

It’s imperative that you make it absolutely clear with yourself that whatever you write will be for your eyes only. Allowing yourself to freely express onto the page whatever comes up is where all the magic lies and it can only happen when our guard is down. It’s only when we let go of the roles and titles we wear in our daily life that we can then, feel safe enough to be heart achingly honest about what’s really happening inside us. … More Why This Self Care Idea Will Clear The Constant Mind Chatter

How Clutter Sabotages Our Self Care Efforts

One thing I’ve realized in keeping up these practices is that our clutter represents our unprocessed stories of desire…Once I let myself feel completely what that cabinet brought up in me, I was then able to let go of that clutter and let in new beautiful things that were appropriate for the new season in my family’s life. The story behind that cabinet was then fully processed. … More How Clutter Sabotages Our Self Care Efforts

How Self Care Cultivates A Clear Mind

Mathematicians, inventors, poets, scientists, musicians, artists and the like all received their insights, for the most part, when not engrossed in their work. When away and disengaged completely from their craft such as in a bath, while on a walk or riding a bike…They had routines of activity that they discovered, placed them in the sweet spot of being receptive, fully present and at ease. … More How Self Care Cultivates A Clear Mind

10 Ways to Stay Committed To Your Self Care

Are you heading towards burnout? Is your body telling you it needs more movement because you sit so much at work? Do you need more sleep to recover from too much activity in your day? Have you received some red flags that something has to change soon? Bare bones honesty about why you want more self care will help you commit to it when distractions come around. … More 10 Ways to Stay Committed To Your Self Care

Self Care Commitment Requires Getting Comfortable Saying “No”

  There’s no way around it.   Keeping your commitment to your own self care means saying no to the requests that derail you from it.   At first it can be downright painful to bear the brunt of peoples disappointment when they receive your “No”.   Some people may guilt trip you, others may get … More Self Care Commitment Requires Getting Comfortable Saying “No”

Why Self Care Is A Marathon And Not A Sprint

You don’t have to wait to make a massive change until your busy schedule miraculously opens up. An overhaul can begin with one small move today and continue in increments.

In the same way the tortoise won the race and not the hare, what gives big results in the long run is whats manageable and consistent. The giant fell swoops of action that require major life changes can rubberband you right back to where you started because that kind of effort cannot be maintained. … More Why Self Care Is A Marathon And Not A Sprint