While the word no may be hard for some of us to say because we don’t want to seem rude, un-thoughtful or uncaring, what’s truly hard is to take on more than we can handle and make the rest of our lives chaotic…if continually feeling more obligated to others then to the quality of our life doesn’t make us physically sick, this dynamic can certainly feel like an emotional cancer. … More 10 Resources To Help You Protect Your Self Care By Saying No
What’s in the cup is my sustenance, it’s mine. We as women were never meant to give from our sustenance but boy has the world done a good job at convincing us otherwise. Social conditioning gives us kudos for being self sacrificing and “good” in having a sort of stamina in giving.
When I give from my sustenance with others, it can set me up to feel resentful, used and bitter. The selfless giving turns into a undercurrent of martyrdom that feels heavy and dis-empowering. … More Giving From The Overflow, Not Our Reserves
I had rage from not having permission to speak my thoughts and heart as a child, rage over my molestation from an uncle, loathing towards being a woman because I saw that much of what I lived through wouldn’t of been a reality had I been born a man. I also became aware of how guilty I felt for just taking up space, actual physical space. I felt wrong just for existing and boy did the people I attract into my life once I left home, reflect that. … More 5 Self Care Gifts That Heal The Mother Wound
I remember feeling so ashamed for the moments I experienced feelings of callousness towards his cries because I was so terribly sleep deprived. I fought the instinct to sleep and eat along with all the ridiculous thoughts that came from that, to tend to him as lovingly as I could. Who raise their children in times of war, famine and natural disasters? … More How Our Mothers Influence Our Self Care
I seesawed many times until I realized that their being upset was their business. If I was starting to care for myself, felt the best I ever had, and they didn’t like it, then that said more about them than me…we had been living comfortably in a small box of norms that we created with many silent assumptions. Remaining in that box had become painful, much more painful, then being on the receiving end of their disappointment. … More Are Your Self Care Efforts Rocking The Boat?