I seesawed many times until I realized that their being upset was their business. If I was starting to care for myself, felt the best I ever had, and they didn’t like it, then that said more about them than me…we had been living comfortably in a small box of norms that we created with many silent assumptions. Remaining in that box had become painful, much more painful, then being on the receiving end of their disappointment. … More Are Your Self Care Efforts Rocking The Boat?
Is the idea of visiting people you love for the holidays dragged down by the idea of having to interact with that one out of bounds person that always manages to get under your skin and derail your good time?
Saying no to certain kinds of interaction is also much easier when you’re clear about the deeper freedom you’re saying yes to. It’s freeing to be able to be ourselves without having to worry about our emotional safety in social situations. This is easier when we make it clear to those around us what we will not tolerate and what we will wholeheartedly contribute to. … More How to Take Control of Your Holiday’s With 3 Social Self Care Lists
Everything Has a Care Tag Attached To It
You know those tags on our clothes that lets us know if that jacket needs to be dry cleaned or it’s fine in the washer in “cold water/ tumble dry low”? Well everything on the face of the earth has one…
I remember when I’d fill my closets with clothes I found deals on. Not necessarily clothes that was flattering on me or even fit me well, just clothes that looked cute on the clothes rack. I was the perfect retail consumer completely sold on the hype of not wanting to miss out on “the deal” regardless of it being right for me. … More Why Getting Clear on Our Values Changes Everything
I had grown up with secrets. Secrets that I saw as dark, dirty, ugly and strange. So many that it became second nature to hide all the time…Situations would arise that triggered these painful secrets and threatened the aloof persona I maintained out in the world as a young adult. Trying to make intellectual sense of these painfully charged places in me (like the self help books encouraged at the time) felt like navigating a minefield maze … More How to Build Integrity Through Habits