How Strengthening Your Healthy Masculinity, Blossoms Your Feminine Heart

This new level of feeling safe within myself unfurled a new inner landscape from within. The old me that saw myself as disciplined, reliable yet fashionably misplaced and dowdy, was now wanting softer, brightly colored, clothes that swayed when I walked and had crisp flower prints. I began noticing women who decorated themselves in ways that stood out to me and took note. I wanted to wear dangling accessories that made tinkling sounds as I moved and wear rose perfume. I didn’t care that I dressed up and smelled as god as I did while just doing laundry. Gone was the Lorena that judged other women who took time to feel pretty, as superficial. … More How Strengthening Your Healthy Masculinity, Blossoms Your Feminine Heart

How to Build Integrity Through Habits

I had grown up with secrets. Secrets that I saw as dark, dirty, ugly and strange. So many that it became second nature to hide all the time…Situations would arise that triggered these painful secrets and threatened the aloof persona I maintained out in the world as a young adult. Trying to make intellectual sense of these painfully charged places in me (like the self help books encouraged at the time) felt like navigating a minefield maze … More How to Build Integrity Through Habits

Stopping the Madness of Perfectionism: part 4 Incremental Increase

Have you ever created crazy standards for yourself on how you should be and what the process of change to be that way should look like? I know I have. I tortured myself trying to do right by all these “shoulds” for many years…A day has yet to come in 12 years when I do nothing in my self care routine. Something always gets done and the result has been a solidly growing sense of well being at the foundation of my life today. … More Stopping the Madness of Perfectionism: part 4 Incremental Increase

Stopping the Madness of Perfection: Part 2, Tiny Steps

I had to get brutally honest about my limits and work with them as opposed to force myself to follow my own made up standard of where I SHOULD be. I was not the cold turkey type of person that had a will of iron and made big changes easily and permanently. I had to work at it at a pace that worked for me … More Stopping the Madness of Perfection: Part 2, Tiny Steps