Giving From The Over Flow, Not Our Reserves

May 25, 2018

What’s in the cup is my sustenance, it’s mine. We as women were never meant to give from our sustenance but boy has the world done a good job at convincing us otherwise. Social conditioning gives us kudos for being self sacrificing and “good” in having a sort of stamina in giving.

When I give from my sustenance with others, it can set me up to feel resentful, used and bitter. The selfless giving turns into a undercurrent of martyrdom that feels heavy and dis-empowering. … More Giving From The Over Flow, Not Our Reserves

15 Things Self Care Has Helped Me Appreciate About My Body

May 18, 2018

My body has instinctual wisdom that sizes up much faster and more comprehensively, any situation I’m presented with, in comparison to my brain…It takes some strength to listen to the wisdom my body is telling me. Many times what it needs is not convenient for me and I need to push outside my comfort zone to heed it. There are times my gut informs me about the environments I’m in and the people I’m interacting with, and the truths it tells me can be just plain ugly and unpalatable. … More 15 Things Self Care Has Helped Me Appreciate About My Body

5 Self Care Gifts That Heal The Mother Wound

May 11, 2018

I had rage from not having permission to speak my thoughts and heart as a child, rage over my molestation from an uncle, loathing towards being a woman because I saw that much of what I lived through wouldn’t of been a reality had I been born a man. I also became aware of how guilty I felt for just taking up space, actual physical space. I felt wrong just for existing and boy did the people I attract into my life once I left home, reflect that. … More 5 Self Care Gifts That Heal The Mother Wound

How Our Mothers Influence Our Self Care

May 4, 2018

I remember feeling so ashamed for the moments I experienced feelings of callousness towards his cries because I was so terribly sleep deprived. I fought the instinct to sleep and eat along with all the ridiculous thoughts that came from that, to tend to him as lovingly as I could. Who raise their children in times of war, famine and natural disasters? … More How Our Mothers Influence Our Self Care

Why This Self Care Idea Will Clear The Constant Mind Chatter

April 27, 2018

It’s imperative that you make it absolutely clear with yourself that whatever you write will be for your eyes only. Allowing yourself to freely express onto the page whatever comes up is where all the magic lies and it can only happen when our guard is down. It’s only when we let go of the roles and titles we wear in our daily life that we can then, feel safe enough to be heart achingly honest about what’s really happening inside us. … More Why This Self Care Idea Will Clear The Constant Mind Chatter